Saturday, October 6, 2012
Post 2
The fallacies that were discussed in the last portion of this chapter include perfectionism, obsession with shoulds, over generalization, taking responsibility for others, helplessness, and fear of catastrophic failure. Perfectionism usually effects people by causing stress, and chronic dissatisfaction with your self. Obsession with shoulds usually saps energy for construction work and sets up unrealistic standards set the self up for failure. Overgeneralization perceives one failure as typical of self. Taking responsibility for others usually effects ones self by depriving others of taking responsibility for selves. Helplessness effects the self by believing there is nothing you can do to change how you feel. The final fallacy is fear of catastrophic failure; this effects the self by the inability to do things because of what might happen. The fallacy that shows up in my interpersonal communication would have to be overgeneralization. Sometimes i tend to think when someone acts a certain way its because that's how they always are. For example, if someone were to push by me rudely I would assume that person was rude and everything that he or she did was just an example of there rudeness. When in actuality, I need to think about the circumstances of that person and why he or she is being rude.
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Hi Lauren,
ReplyDeleteI found the end of this chapter very interesting. The one thing that I noted most importantly is that everything here could really be attributed to perfectionism. While the elements could stand be stand alone, when perfectionism is present it typically takes the characteristics of all the others. The reason I say this is because in my work I am definitely a perfectionist. First, I am never satisfied with the work of others or myself, I often take on more than I should because I am worried that others will somehow mess it up or fail. I also take failures as a reflection of me, perhaps that I am not worthy. During the process, sometimes helplessness sets in, and it often feels like nothing can be done to fix the situation. All of these forms of paranoia lead to catastrophic failure. It is often said that the worst decision is no decision. Sometimes people become so riddled with fear that they cannot do anything. I wonder if there are any studies that show people that exhibit one of these characteristics are likely to have more than just one?
Hello! I like how you discussed the fallacies in detail. I can relate to the thing that you talked about when you discussed overgeneralization because like you, I tend to judge people off the one thing I see them do, but not take the time to understand the circumstances that resulted to someone reacting a certain way. I feel like if we took the time to do self-talk and really realize why how a person acted during a situation, we will truly understand them and not fall into the fallacy of overgeneralization. So, let’s both think about it first before we react to how a person is acting!
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your post. I never thought of overgeneralization being present in my interpersonal life. After reading your post and the way that you summed up overgeneralization, I realize that it is more present in my life than I would have ever believed. Overgeneralization is sort of like judging a book by its cover. Generalizing a person at first glance or interaction is something that I have done a lot in my life. In the long run, I need to step back and get to know a person much better before I actually decide how they are. Judging someone at first glance is something that a lot of people need to work on.
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